It is a bitter truth that our society does not accept the second marriage, which has three major disadvantages.
1. The number of unmarried girls in our country is increasing day by day.
According to a UNICEF report, more than 10 million girls (20 to 25 years) of marriageable age are waiting to get married in Pakistan. About one million of them have reached the age of marriage. It is noteworthy that 75% of the girls waiting for marriage are educated.
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2. The number of widows in the beloved homeland is increasing with the passage of time.
There are about 6 million single widows between the ages of 30 and 45. This means that these are widows whose second marriage is possible, but for whom there is no strong governmental and non-governmental system in the country to provide for them.
3. The rate of divorced girls/women is gradually increasing.
The divorce rate in the beloved homeland is also on the rise. According to an estimation, the divorce rate in the homeland was 13% in 1970, which has now risen to more than 35%. Some believe that one of the reasons for the increase in divorce is the Family Courts Act 2015. Under section 6, the process of khula has been made easier. Compared to the past, 2018 saw a significant increase in the divorce rate. In 2018, 15,800 khula claims were filed in the Family Courts of Lahore alone.
The above situation demands that we correct ourselves before it is too late. Otherwise, our defeated family system will collapse. In order to correct this devastating situation, we need to promote the second marriage in our society. Married girls should be generous while feeling the pain of girls like them. The one who comes should also show moderation, be an ideal companion so that others may also be encouraged and a good tradition may be promoted.
Relationships should be made easier by eliminating or minimizing the demands of the relationship. Relationships should be established in a timely manner, and delays due to education and other unnecessary reasons should be avoided.
The curse of dowry should be eradicated in the beloved homeland. In this regard, both the government and the people have a role to play. We must educate the youth that both dowry takers and givers are corrupting society. Those individuals/families who are promoting the dowry tradition should be socially excluded.
If you are a boy, try to feel the pain that arises in the hearts of the parents of unmarried, aging girls. In order to reduce the divorce rate in our society, parents must educate their sons to become good husbands. And mothers should train their daughters so that they can become a good wife/daughter-in-law/mother-in-law.